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    How to Establish the Truth

    HOW can we ESTABLISH the TRUTH? 

    God has not left us to guess whether certain things are right or wrong.

    Three connected parts are necessary to establish the truth.

    1. OBJECTIVE – separate from any personal feelings, situations, or opinions
                 (Deuteronomy 32:4, Psalms 18:30-31)
    2. UNIVERSAL – applies to all people in all places
                 (Psalms 103:19, Psalms 97:5)
    3. CONSTANT - does not change with time…
                (Isaiah 40:28, Ecclesiastes 3:14)

    The Source of Truth can be found in only in God!

    John 14:6

    There are basic elements of truth that can always be counted on no matter what I feel, no matter where I am, and no matter what my age!

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    Put down your phone


    Interesting chapter titles says it all...  What do you think?

    1 We Are Addicted to Distraction  . . . . . . 41

    2 We Ignore Our Flesh and Blood . . . . . . 55

    3 We Crave Immediate Approval . . . . . . .65

    4 We Lose Our Literacy . . . . . . . . . . . . . .79

    5 We Feed on the Produced . . . . . . . . . . 91

    6 We Become Like What We “Like” . . . . .109

    7 We Get Lonely . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  . . . . 119

    8 We Get Comfortable in Secret Vices . . .131

    9 We Lose Meaning . . . . . . . .  . . . . . . . . .145

    10 We Fear Missing Out . . . . . . . . . . . . .153

    11 We Become Harsh to One Another  . . . .163

    12 We Lose Our Place in Time . . . . . . . . . .177

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    Lent - Mardi Gras Tuesday - Ash Wednesday - Self Denial - Fish - Easter - Gospel Story

    LENT(Old English for Spring) is a 40-day period (before Easter, excluding Sundays) of fasting and repentance culminating in the celebration of Holy Week. LENT began by early Christians in an effort to identify with biblical 40 day periods of trial and fasting(Genesis 7:12, Exodus 34:28, Numbers 13:25, Numbers 14:34, 1 Samuel 17:16, 1 Kings 19:8, Luke 4:2, Acts 1:3)leading up to Easter. The Lenten season beacons us to deepen our understanding and appreciation for the abundant grace of our Lord, Jesus Christ's saving work on the cross.

    MARDI GRAS Pre-Lenten celebrations (Carnival, Festival)culminate with FAT TUESDAY(Mardi Gras in French or Shrove Tuesday)the day before Ash Wednesday. Since Christians have often chosen or been taught to fast from all sweet food during Lent, including milk, eggs, and meat, the traditional dinner on this night is pancakes to use up their milk and eggs and syrup so there won't be any of the tempting stuff around during Lent. Many have mutated this season as an excuse for indulgence before the fast. It is often looked on as one last “binge” before having to give something up for 40 days. These celebrations foster the unscriptural notion that you can do whatever you want on Fat Tuesday, as long as you show up in church on Ash Wednesday.

    ASH WEDNESDAYbegins the Lenten season and is six and a half weeks before Easter every year. Ash Wednesday isthe tradition (not a requirement)of putting ashes on the forehead in the form of a cross as a sign of humility and recognition of our own sin (the ashes usually come from the dried and burned palms from Palm Sunday the year before). "From dust you came, and to dust you shall return. Turn from your sin and receive the good news." By reminding ourselves of our need and willfully submitting to Christ's authority, we prepare our heart to celebrate Easter with a renewed sense of joy and amazement!

    Many equate LENT with SELF DENIALand give up something enjoyable (like meat or chocolate or movies)for the 40 days as a way of focusing more intently on the meaning of the season. While there is certainly nothing wrong with preparing for Easter through some form of self-denial or intentional good works, it is important to realize that these will not win us God's favor, earn special blessing, or increase His love for us. God’s love for us could not be any greater than it already is! If you plan to give up something, please make sure to use the margin created to grow in love and appreciation with Christ. Remember the Lenten season is about preparing the heart; so, if you plan to give up something, then make plans to REPLACE it with something that would turn your heart more toward Christ! Maybe take the challenge to read the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John), memorize certain scriptures, or read the Purpose Driven Life daily devotional book during Lent. (free YouVersion Bible App for reading plans & FighterVerse App for scripture memory)

    FISH Catholic traditions often practice various acts of penitence and spiritual self-discipline during Lent. One of those disciplines is a fast that requires Catholics to abstain from meat on Fridays during Lent. The rule is based on the authority of the Church, not on the authority of Scripture. The stated reason for Catholics not being allowed to eat meat on Fridays during Lent is to remind the faithful that Jesus died on a Friday. Jesus gave up His body (His flesh), and Catholics, in an effort to attain greater communion with Christ, refrain from consuming flesh.

    EASTER  Christians celebrate Easter as the resurrection of Christ on the third day after His crucifixion. It is the oldest Christian holiday and the most important day of the church year because of the significance of the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ, the events upon which Christianity is based(1 Corinthians 15:3-4,14). The four Gospels make it clear that Jesus was crucified in conjunction with the Jewish Passover (Matthew 26:17-19; Mark 14:12-16; Luke 22:7-15; John 18:28,39; 19:14). The four Gospels also make it clear that Jesus was raised from the dead three days later, on the first day of the week (Matthew 28:1; Mark 16:2,9; Luke 24:1; John 20:1,19). Easter is celebrated on the first Sunday after the first full moon after the vernal equinox. Whether we call it “Easter” or “Resurrection Sunday,” what is important is the reason for our celebration, which is that Christ is alive, making it possible for us to have eternal life (Romans 6:4)!

    GOSPEL STORY[BAD NEWS]Since SIN is any thought, attitude, word, or action that falls short of God’s perfect, holy standard and deserves punishment, we are separated from the Source of LIFE and we ALL desperately need RESCUED! [GOOD NEWS]Love motivated Jesus Christ to step out of heaven and sacrificially give His innocent life on a bloody cross for the just punishment of our sin and also conquer sin’s penalty (death) by victoriously rising from the grave! [Romans 10:9-10][Ephesians 2:8-9]To reject this Gospel story is to condemn your self to death. To receive this Gospel story for your own is embracing LIFE!

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    Love and Respect

    Ephesians 5:33
    Let each one of you LOVE his wife as himself,
    and let the wife see that she RESPECTS her husband.

    The Language of Love & Respect
    Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate
    Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

    MEN: How to Spell LOVE to Your Wife? COUPLE

    Closeness: She wants you to be close.

    Openness: She wants you to open up to her.

    Understanding: Don’t try to fix her; just listen.

    Peacemaking: She wants you to say, “I’m sorry.”

    Loyalty: She needs to know you’re committed.

    Esteem: She wants you to honor and cherish her.

    MEN:  You don’t motivate your wife to become more respectful by acting in unloving ways.  [Tony Evans] The less a woman feels appreciated, needed, and valued as an equal with you, the less responsive she will be following your functional lead as head in your house. 

    LADIES: How to Spell RESPECT to Your Husband? CHAIRS

    Conquest: Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.

    Hierarchy: Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.

    Authority: Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.

    Insight: Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.

    Relationship: Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.

    Sexuality: Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.

    LADIES: You don’t motivate your husband to become more loving by complaining and criticizing to get what you want.  The less a man feels respected, the less motivated he will be to want to treat you well, love you, and be good to you.

    [got ?'s quote] God’s commands for husbands and wives are not conditional. Submission is not contingent upon love, and love is not contingent upon respect. Taking the first step in obedience, regardless of the actions of the other, goes a long way to breaking down the conflict and establishing new patterns of behavior.

    LADIES: What would you think of a man that is consumed with CHRIST and empowered to LOVE you and your family with the self-sacrificial love of Christ?

    MEN:  What would you think of a lady that is consumed with CHRIST and honors your position as husband with endless respect?

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Marriage Advice

This is a letter from a Father to a son who was getting married.  I have never met them, but found these as good practical reminders from someone successfully marriage 40+years and counting. ... and yes, they work both ways!  What would you add to the list?

Talk! Talk! Talk about everything with your wife and respect each other’s opinion, and use each other’s areas of expertise. Together you will be an unbeatable team!

Standard Don’t ever complain about your wife to your friends about little or big things. It gives others the wrong impression about your marriage and relationship.

Money! Agree on how to spend it. Make a budget together so you are in total agreement about where your priorities are. Decide how much to spend without discussion.

Complaining! A little goes a long way. Don’t fall into the trap of making complaining a major topic of conversation. Don’t go to work somewhere for eight hours a day then spend the first hour together complaining about it. Be a positive person! Change what needs changing. Fix what you can fix. Understand the realities of a situation then comment on it, learn to live with it, or take yourself out of the situation. Complaining is counter-productive.

If something bothers you about your wife, discuss it with her, that is, only if it is something you can’t live with. Remember, you did not marry her to change her. You fell in love with her the way she is.

Date Have a real date at least once every other week – I mean something alone. People get too wrapped up in their groups and don’t make the time for each other. In most group activities, you really are not getting much time together.

Romance Keep the romance in your marriage! One minor part of that is giving each other a little privacy, for example, bathroom privacy. How romantic is it for your wife to see you go to the bathroom.

Kids will change everything. Get to know each other well first. One major change in your life at a time is enough, although not always possible. Kids will be fun, but much work. You really have to be a team with the kids. Give each other a break for a few minutes each day. You will have to devote yourselves to your kids, but don’t forget your date! You start out just the two of you, and you will end up again that way. Keep your personal relationship alive and well while you go through the other parts of your life.

Embarass Don’t embarrass her in front of friends or family. This could be an embarrassing story that you could choose not to tell, or choosing to discreetly help her avoid a potentially embarrassing situation even though it could seem funny on one level. Make the distinction between funny and embarrassing — it is an important one.

Thinking of You  Always be the person, do the things and say the things, that she can be proud of when she thinks of you.

Trust Always be the one person she can trust in any situation and never do anything to shake that trust.

Secrets Don’t keep secrets! Don’t let someone tell you something that you can’t tell your wife! Tell them, “Of course you don’t mean my wife.”

You two will be as one against the world!

 Love, Dad


A few I would add...

  • Set the example and standard of developing intimacy with God
  • Learn to say "I'm sorry" / "I was wrong" to your spouse and kids

3 comments (Add your own)

1 Joshua Abel - Thu, April 7, 2011 @ 4:30 PM

- The #1 issue in marriage is always relationships


- Marriage is a process, never a product

- When coming together, you should be like-minded in pursuit and beliefs about God; however, one person's personality was never meant to swallow up or change the others. You should 'compliment' one another.

- Celebrate each others successes. It is not him versus her. If he wins, she wins and if she wins, he wins.

- Men need to be affirmed

- When you get married, you are FORMING a family...again, process not product

- Marriage is a covenant...you have to mean it! No backing out!

- Don't make every issue a BIG issue... (i.e. a waterloo issue)

- Always reflect on the gift of salvation together

- 2 things to never lose in communication: 1) eye contact 2) touch

- Make sure you can love yourself before you promise to love someone else

I got more but I'll stop for now!

2 Joshua Abel - Thu, April 7, 2011 @ 4:41 PM

Listen even if you think you know what he/she is going to say!

"He who gives an answer before he hears, It is folly and shame to him."

- Proverbs 18:13
3 Holly Henry - Fri, April 8, 2011 @ 10:53 PM

God is the glue in marriage. The best advice I ever got about marriage.

Pray for husband and pray some more.

Encourage your husband in whatever he does to help out. Even if you are scratching head as to why. Yet, I love my new flower beds tha...t Mike did. He worked hard on that.

Don't be afraid to ask a mentor, pastor, or counselor for help during hard moments.

Lift each other up with scriptures.

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