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    How to Establish the Truth

    HOW can we ESTABLISH the TRUTH? 

    God has not left us to guess whether certain things are right or wrong.

    Three connected parts are necessary to establish the truth.

    1. OBJECTIVE – separate from any personal feelings, situations, or opinions
                 (Deuteronomy 32:4, Psalms 18:30-31)
    2. UNIVERSAL – applies to all people in all places
                 (Psalms 103:19, Psalms 97:5)
    3. CONSTANT - does not change with time…
                (Isaiah 40:28, Ecclesiastes 3:14)

    The Source of Truth can be found in only in God!

    John 14:6

    There are basic elements of truth that can always be counted on no matter what I feel, no matter where I am, and no matter what my age!

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    Put down your phone


    Interesting chapter titles says it all...  What do you think?

    1 We Are Addicted to Distraction  . . . . . . 41

    2 We Ignore Our Flesh and Blood . . . . . . 55

    3 We Crave Immediate Approval . . . . . . .65

    4 We Lose Our Literacy . . . . . . . . . . . . . .79

    5 We Feed on the Produced . . . . . . . . . . 91

    6 We Become Like What We “Like” . . . . .109

    7 We Get Lonely . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  . . . . 119

    8 We Get Comfortable in Secret Vices . . .131

    9 We Lose Meaning . . . . . . . .  . . . . . . . . .145

    10 We Fear Missing Out . . . . . . . . . . . . .153

    11 We Become Harsh to One Another  . . . .163

    12 We Lose Our Place in Time . . . . . . . . . .177

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    Lent - Mardi Gras Tuesday - Ash Wednesday - Self Denial - Fish - Easter - Gospel Story

    LENT(Old English for Spring) is a 40-day period (before Easter, excluding Sundays) of fasting and repentance culminating in the celebration of Holy Week. LENT began by early Christians in an effort to identify with biblical 40 day periods of trial and fasting(Genesis 7:12, Exodus 34:28, Numbers 13:25, Numbers 14:34, 1 Samuel 17:16, 1 Kings 19:8, Luke 4:2, Acts 1:3)leading up to Easter. The Lenten season beacons us to deepen our understanding and appreciation for the abundant grace of our Lord, Jesus Christ's saving work on the cross.

    MARDI GRAS Pre-Lenten celebrations (Carnival, Festival)culminate with FAT TUESDAY(Mardi Gras in French or Shrove Tuesday)the day before Ash Wednesday. Since Christians have often chosen or been taught to fast from all sweet food during Lent, including milk, eggs, and meat, the traditional dinner on this night is pancakes to use up their milk and eggs and syrup so there won't be any of the tempting stuff around during Lent. Many have mutated this season as an excuse for indulgence before the fast. It is often looked on as one last “binge” before having to give something up for 40 days. These celebrations foster the unscriptural notion that you can do whatever you want on Fat Tuesday, as long as you show up in church on Ash Wednesday.

    ASH WEDNESDAYbegins the Lenten season and is six and a half weeks before Easter every year. Ash Wednesday isthe tradition (not a requirement)of putting ashes on the forehead in the form of a cross as a sign of humility and recognition of our own sin (the ashes usually come from the dried and burned palms from Palm Sunday the year before). "From dust you came, and to dust you shall return. Turn from your sin and receive the good news." By reminding ourselves of our need and willfully submitting to Christ's authority, we prepare our heart to celebrate Easter with a renewed sense of joy and amazement!

    Many equate LENT with SELF DENIALand give up something enjoyable (like meat or chocolate or movies)for the 40 days as a way of focusing more intently on the meaning of the season. While there is certainly nothing wrong with preparing for Easter through some form of self-denial or intentional good works, it is important to realize that these will not win us God's favor, earn special blessing, or increase His love for us. God’s love for us could not be any greater than it already is! If you plan to give up something, please make sure to use the margin created to grow in love and appreciation with Christ. Remember the Lenten season is about preparing the heart; so, if you plan to give up something, then make plans to REPLACE it with something that would turn your heart more toward Christ! Maybe take the challenge to read the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John), memorize certain scriptures, or read the Purpose Driven Life daily devotional book during Lent. (free YouVersion Bible App for reading plans & FighterVerse App for scripture memory)

    FISH Catholic traditions often practice various acts of penitence and spiritual self-discipline during Lent. One of those disciplines is a fast that requires Catholics to abstain from meat on Fridays during Lent. The rule is based on the authority of the Church, not on the authority of Scripture. The stated reason for Catholics not being allowed to eat meat on Fridays during Lent is to remind the faithful that Jesus died on a Friday. Jesus gave up His body (His flesh), and Catholics, in an effort to attain greater communion with Christ, refrain from consuming flesh.

    EASTER  Christians celebrate Easter as the resurrection of Christ on the third day after His crucifixion. It is the oldest Christian holiday and the most important day of the church year because of the significance of the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ, the events upon which Christianity is based(1 Corinthians 15:3-4,14). The four Gospels make it clear that Jesus was crucified in conjunction with the Jewish Passover (Matthew 26:17-19; Mark 14:12-16; Luke 22:7-15; John 18:28,39; 19:14). The four Gospels also make it clear that Jesus was raised from the dead three days later, on the first day of the week (Matthew 28:1; Mark 16:2,9; Luke 24:1; John 20:1,19). Easter is celebrated on the first Sunday after the first full moon after the vernal equinox. Whether we call it “Easter” or “Resurrection Sunday,” what is important is the reason for our celebration, which is that Christ is alive, making it possible for us to have eternal life (Romans 6:4)!

    GOSPEL STORY[BAD NEWS]Since SIN is any thought, attitude, word, or action that falls short of God’s perfect, holy standard and deserves punishment, we are separated from the Source of LIFE and we ALL desperately need RESCUED! [GOOD NEWS]Love motivated Jesus Christ to step out of heaven and sacrificially give His innocent life on a bloody cross for the just punishment of our sin and also conquer sin’s penalty (death) by victoriously rising from the grave! [Romans 10:9-10][Ephesians 2:8-9]To reject this Gospel story is to condemn your self to death. To receive this Gospel story for your own is embracing LIFE!

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    Love and Respect

    Ephesians 5:33
    Let each one of you LOVE his wife as himself,
    and let the wife see that she RESPECTS her husband.

    The Language of Love & Respect
    Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate
    Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

    MEN: How to Spell LOVE to Your Wife? COUPLE

    Closeness: She wants you to be close.

    Openness: She wants you to open up to her.

    Understanding: Don’t try to fix her; just listen.

    Peacemaking: She wants you to say, “I’m sorry.”

    Loyalty: She needs to know you’re committed.

    Esteem: She wants you to honor and cherish her.

    MEN:  You don’t motivate your wife to become more respectful by acting in unloving ways.  [Tony Evans] The less a woman feels appreciated, needed, and valued as an equal with you, the less responsive she will be following your functional lead as head in your house. 

    LADIES: How to Spell RESPECT to Your Husband? CHAIRS

    Conquest: Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.

    Hierarchy: Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.

    Authority: Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.

    Insight: Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.

    Relationship: Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.

    Sexuality: Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.

    LADIES: You don’t motivate your husband to become more loving by complaining and criticizing to get what you want.  The less a man feels respected, the less motivated he will be to want to treat you well, love you, and be good to you.

    [got ?'s quote] God’s commands for husbands and wives are not conditional. Submission is not contingent upon love, and love is not contingent upon respect. Taking the first step in obedience, regardless of the actions of the other, goes a long way to breaking down the conflict and establishing new patterns of behavior.

    LADIES: What would you think of a man that is consumed with CHRIST and empowered to LOVE you and your family with the self-sacrificial love of Christ?

    MEN:  What would you think of a lady that is consumed with CHRIST and honors your position as husband with endless respect?

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Dealing with ANGER!

We all have to deal with ANGER!

Through God's power, we can move from our anger controlling us to controlling our anger.

Below are some notes and scripture based on a message from 9-11-11 on Retiring the ANGERY Beast.
You can listen by clicking on Box.net on the www.northshorefamily.org home page and select the date.

ANGER says, “YOU owe ME!” … 9/11 events fueled by anger!

Anger is like a shook up soda CAN ready to ^explode / ^implode

Unresolved anger ISSUES in your heart will work their way to the surface and explode.

What if we chose to deal with our anger and with God’s help and RETIRE the Angry monster.

Ever let anger GET the best of you?   If we drill deep, our piercing words and bad behaviors erupt because we feel that things have been TAKEN from us.

STORIES behind Anger… ^blown away from hurt on your row robbed me of my teenage years / stole my family / cheated my health / took my reputation / lived with broken promises… I FEEL ignored / abused / embarrassed / disrespected

The Bible reminds us that anger is a perfectly HEALTHY emotion as long as we don’t “miss the mark.” Ephesians 4:26 & 27, "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a FOOTHOLD. [topos… a place / a moment / an opportunity when your guard was down]

Jesus ANSWERED how to retire the angry beasts ~ Parable in Matthew 18

BACKSTORY: As a disciple, Peter understood his responsibility to forgive, but wasn’t sure how far to take it… especially to a repeat offender. ? Where is the justice in a system where forgiveness is offered every time? Like us, Peter assumed forgiveness is for the benefit of the offender. Peter was catching on to Jesus… he suggested 7 times! Jesus answered, 70*7, then told parable…

Matthew 18:23-27 The master was going to settle the debt by selling the servant, his family, and their possessions. The servant begged for MERCY. The master decided to cancel the debt. Forgiveness is the DECISION to cancel a debt.

Matthew 18:28-29 Now the forgiven servant is in the same POSITION as his master. The servant walked out saw a peer who owed him a few dollars and wanted immediate justice.

Matthew 18:30-35… vrs 32 Jesus DEFINITION of forgiveness = canceled debt. … vrs 35 forgive your brothers from your heart.”


UNMERCIFUL SERVANT= any having debt canceled by God

FELLOW SERVANT=anybody we’re holding something against because of something they have taken or done

Deeper MEANING of the parable probably didn’t hit Peter until months later, when he found himself staring at Jesus hanging on a Roman cross. If this was the price of forgiveness, then who was he to withhold forgiveness from another? GOD’S DECISION to forgive us required cancelling the debt and paying the price with the death of His son on the cross. From our perspective, we have every right to hold out until we’re paid back.

Tragedy=most anger can’t be REPAID

  • Isn’t anger simply a REACTION to people and events? ^Not my fault: work late… teacher incompetent… crazy driver How can you get rid of anger you have no control over?
  • When anger is reacting to a situation, you have developed a COBRA mentality. ^cobras react • Cobras always have an EXCUSE for why they strike… “I want to make sure the person who hurt me PAYS.”

Ephesians 4:31, “GET RID OF all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.”

  • The Greek for “Get Rid Of” is “aI-Roe” ^SPIDER WEB off face… remove or separate yourself from every kind of deceit, hurtful words, & activity seeking opportunity to avenge

You don’t forgive BECAUSE the other person deserves it; you forgive because You have been forgiven… apostle Paul’s wrote this after a year in Roman prison while thinking of Jesus on the cross (Acts 28:30-31)

Wouldn’t forgiveness would be letting the offender OFF the HOOK?

  • Forgiveness does not forfeit JUSTICE… guarantees justice.
  • 1 Peter 2:23-24, “When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he ENTRUSTED himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed.”
  • In the SHADOW of my hurt, forgiveness can feel like a decision to reward my enemy. BUT in the shadow of the cross, forgiveness is merely a gift from one undeserving soul to another. From GOD’S PERSPECTIVE, anger is possibly the most self-destructive thing we can have lodged in our heart.

Scripture never refers to forgiveness as a FEELING; it’s always described as a decision.

  • ACT on FAITH to begin healing your feelings.
  • Forgiveness is a way of life for the person with a CLEAN heart.


  • Psalm 139:23-24
  • LIST people that have mistreated or taken advantage of you
  • Look back at the core… more than one SEASON
    • Whom do you hope you never see again?
    • Whom do you find yourself having imaginary conversations?
    • Whom would you like to pay back if you could get away with it?
    • Whom do you secretly desire to see fail? GENERAL forgiveness does not heal specific hurts.

    2.    DETERMINE what’s OWED

  • Not what the person who hurt you DID, but what exactly did they take?
  • What would they need to RETURN in order to put things back they way they were?  Apology / money / time / fam / reputation / opportunity / relationship
  • What do they OWE you?
  • What did they take from you?

    3. CANCEL the DEBT

  • There are irreplaceable things, but if we WAIT to be paid back for the wrongs done to us, we will be the ones who pay.  If, on the other hand, we cancel the debts owed to us, we will be set FREE.
  • Is it NECESSARY to tell the person you’ve forgiven them?  While it is always right when someone approaches you to ask for forgiveness or apologize for an incident in the past, most other situations may actually NOT be healthy because the offender may not have had a heart change, so leave it in the hands of the Righteous Judge.
  • TANGIBLE celebration… tear paper / sealed note / conversation in a spot

    4. DISMISS the CASE

  • DAILY decision not to reopen the case.
  • When memories of past hurts return, RESTATE your decision!
  • When MEMORIES of the past flood your mind, face them in God’s power = Expressing the emotion can help cleanse the heart, + but also focus that debt is canceled & not in your hands.
  • Truly forgiving is not FORGETTING memories of the past.  What you do with your memories determine their impact.
  • Your story could be a “TESTIMONY” of God’s faithfulness

IMAGINE living your life free from the grip of anger… your relationship with God more intimate… stronger relationships with others in your family… and the peace of God that passes all understanding in your heart as you close your eyes at the end of the day.

Heavenly Father, you know what has been taken from me.  It has wounded me… controlled me… and I have held on to this debt long enough!  With Your help, I choose to cancel this debt.  They don’t owe me anymore!  Just as you forgave me, I forgive them.  As I release my grip on this heart issue, I place my hope and trust in you.  In Jesus Name

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