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    Put down your phone

    12 WAYS YOUR PHONE IS CHANGING YOU by Tony Reinke

    Interesting chapter titles says it all...  What do you think?

    1 We Are Addicted to Distraction  . . . . . . 41

    2 We Ignore Our Flesh and Blood . . . . . . 55

    3 We Crave Immediate Approval . . . . . . .65

    4 We Lose Our Literacy . . . . . . . . . . . . . .79

    5 We Feed on the Produced . . . . . . . . . . 91

    6 We Become Like What We “Like” . . . . .109

    7 We Get Lonely . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .  . . . . 119

    8 We Get Comfortable in Secret Vices . . .131

    9 We Lose Meaning . . . . . . . .  . . . . . . . . .145

    10 We Fear Missing Out . . . . . . . . . . . . .153

    11 We Become Harsh to One Another  . . . .163

    12 We Lose Our Place in Time . . . . . . . . . .177

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    Lent - Mardi Gras Tuesday - Ash Wednesday - Self Denial - Fish - Easter - Gospel Story

    LENT(Old English for Spring) is a 40-day period (before Easter, excluding Sundays) of fasting and repentance culminating in the celebration of Holy Week. LENT began by early Christians in an effort to identify with biblical 40 day periods of trial and fasting(Genesis 7:12, Exodus 34:28, Numbers 13:25, Numbers 14:34, 1 Samuel 17:16, 1 Kings 19:8, Luke 4:2, Acts 1:3)leading up to Easter. The Lenten season beacons us to deepen our understanding and appreciation for the abundant grace of our Lord, Jesus Christ's saving work on the cross.

    MARDI GRAS Pre-Lenten celebrations (Carnival, Festival)culminate with FAT TUESDAY(Mardi Gras in French or Shrove Tuesday)the day before Ash Wednesday. Since Christians have often chosen or been taught to fast from all sweet food during Lent, including milk, eggs, and meat, the traditional dinner on this night is pancakes to use up their milk and eggs and syrup so there won't be any of the tempting stuff around during Lent. Many have mutated this season as an excuse for indulgence before the fast. It is often looked on as one last “binge” before having to give something up for 40 days. These celebrations foster the unscriptural notion that you can do whatever you want on Fat Tuesday, as long as you show up in church on Ash Wednesday.

    ASH WEDNESDAYbegins the Lenten season and is six and a half weeks before Easter every year. Ash Wednesday isthe tradition (not a requirement)of putting ashes on the forehead in the form of a cross as a sign of humility and recognition of our own sin (the ashes usually come from the dried and burned palms from Palm Sunday the year before). "From dust you came, and to dust you shall return. Turn from your sin and receive the good news." By reminding ourselves of our need and willfully submitting to Christ's authority, we prepare our heart to celebrate Easter with a renewed sense of joy and amazement!

    Many equate LENT with SELF DENIALand give up something enjoyable (like meat or chocolate or movies)for the 40 days as a way of focusing more intently on the meaning of the season. While there is certainly nothing wrong with preparing for Easter through some form of self-denial or intentional good works, it is important to realize that these will not win us God's favor, earn special blessing, or increase His love for us. God’s love for us could not be any greater than it already is! If you plan to give up something, please make sure to use the margin created to grow in love and appreciation with Christ. Remember the Lenten season is about preparing the heart; so, if you plan to give up something, then make plans to REPLACE it with something that would turn your heart more toward Christ! Maybe take the challenge to read the Gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John), memorize certain scriptures, or read the Purpose Driven Life daily devotional book during Lent. (free YouVersion Bible App for reading plans & FighterVerse App for scripture memory)

    FISH Catholic traditions often practice various acts of penitence and spiritual self-discipline during Lent. One of those disciplines is a fast that requires Catholics to abstain from meat on Fridays during Lent. The rule is based on the authority of the Church, not on the authority of Scripture. The stated reason for Catholics not being allowed to eat meat on Fridays during Lent is to remind the faithful that Jesus died on a Friday. Jesus gave up His body (His flesh), and Catholics, in an effort to attain greater communion with Christ, refrain from consuming flesh.

    EASTER  Christians celebrate Easter as the resurrection of Christ on the third day after His crucifixion. It is the oldest Christian holiday and the most important day of the church year because of the significance of the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ, the events upon which Christianity is based(1 Corinthians 15:3-4,14). The four Gospels make it clear that Jesus was crucified in conjunction with the Jewish Passover (Matthew 26:17-19; Mark 14:12-16; Luke 22:7-15; John 18:28,39; 19:14). The four Gospels also make it clear that Jesus was raised from the dead three days later, on the first day of the week (Matthew 28:1; Mark 16:2,9; Luke 24:1; John 20:1,19). Easter is celebrated on the first Sunday after the first full moon after the vernal equinox. Whether we call it “Easter” or “Resurrection Sunday,” what is important is the reason for our celebration, which is that Christ is alive, making it possible for us to have eternal life (Romans 6:4)!

    GOSPEL STORY[BAD NEWS]Since SIN is any thought, attitude, word, or action that falls short of God’s perfect, holy standard and deserves punishment, we are separated from the Source of LIFE and we ALL desperately need RESCUED! [GOOD NEWS]Love motivated Jesus Christ to step out of heaven and sacrificially give His innocent life on a bloody cross for the just punishment of our sin and also conquer sin’s penalty (death) by victoriously rising from the grave! [Romans 10:9-10][Ephesians 2:8-9]To reject this Gospel story is to condemn your self to death. To receive this Gospel story for your own is embracing LIFE!

    FMI – Questions – Share a Decision: northshorefamilychurch@gmail.com

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    Love and Respect

    Ephesians 5:33
    Let each one of you LOVE his wife as himself,
    and let the wife see that she RESPECTS her husband.

    The Language of Love & Respect
    Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate
    Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

    MEN: How to Spell LOVE to Your Wife? COUPLE

    Closeness: She wants you to be close.

    Openness: She wants you to open up to her.

    Understanding: Don’t try to fix her; just listen.

    Peacemaking: She wants you to say, “I’m sorry.”

    Loyalty: She needs to know you’re committed.

    Esteem: She wants you to honor and cherish her.

    MEN:  You don’t motivate your wife to become more respectful by acting in unloving ways.  [Tony Evans] The less a woman feels appreciated, needed, and valued as an equal with you, the less responsive she will be following your functional lead as head in your house. 

    LADIES: How to Spell RESPECT to Your Husband? CHAIRS

    Conquest: Appreciate his desire to work and achieve.

    Hierarchy: Appreciate his desire to protect and provide.

    Authority: Appreciate his desire to serve and to lead.

    Insight: Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel.

    Relationship: Appreciate his desire for shoulder-to-shoulder friendship.

    Sexuality: Appreciate his desire for sexual intimacy.

    LADIES: You don’t motivate your husband to become more loving by complaining and criticizing to get what you want.  The less a man feels respected, the less motivated he will be to want to treat you well, love you, and be good to you.

    [got ?'s quote] God’s commands for husbands and wives are not conditional. Submission is not contingent upon love, and love is not contingent upon respect. Taking the first step in obedience, regardless of the actions of the other, goes a long way to breaking down the conflict and establishing new patterns of behavior.

    LADIES: What would you think of a man that is consumed with CHRIST and empowered to LOVE you and your family with the self-sacrificial love of Christ?

    MEN:  What would you think of a lady that is consumed with CHRIST and honors your position as husband with endless respect?

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    Celebrate Recovery Ministry

    We are thrilled to start a NEW Celebrate Recovery Ministry!  The initial group meeting will be Thursday, 2-21-19 in the separate front room at Portland Dairy Queen at 7:30pm.  Please pray that our leader Sherry Moody has opportunities to infuses the hope of Christ into the stories of people who are going through tough seasons and ready for life-change!

    Celebrate Recovery is a Christ-centered, 12 step recovery program for anyone struggling with hurt, pain or addiction of any kind.  Celebrate Recovery is a safe place to find community and freedom from the issues that are controlling our life.

    Are you or someone you know struggling with...

    summarized list here... with lots more details below... addiction, anger, codependency, eating disorder, food addiction, love & relationship addiction, physical-sexual-emotional abuse, alcohol/drug addiction, sexual addiction, gambling addiction.

    Addiction

    Addiction is a pattern (trained response) to an internal reaction to painful experiences and wounds. One creates that pattern to survive and to function (it's a natural response). Relying on Christ amid pain requires trust and intentionality. (This is NOT natural)…it has to become a pattern also.

    What some of the common lies look/sound like when dealing with Addictions:
    "As long as I am in control, I will not get hurt." 
    "I can manage this pain/hurt/problem on my own… I don't need any help." 
    "I don't need to dig up the past. The past has nothing to do with this."
    "That wasn't really a problem. People have way worse things happen to them."
    "I've tried everything and nothing works… I must just be this way."

    Where the addiction begins spiritually:
    1. Avoidance 
    2. Self-reliance 
    3. Self-protection

    When you are honest with yourself, do you find you cannot quit drinking or using drugs entirely? Do you have little control over the amount you consume? You are probably an alcoholic and/or an addict.

    When does a behavior become an addiction? We discover if one has an addiction by how the person is affected when he or she tries to stop a behavior. Here is a brief list of good questions to ask to decide the severity of a behavior…
    Can you stop the behavior on your own whenever you want?
    Do you do the behavior more often than you want to?
    Has anyone ever confronted you about the behavior or joked about you doing it too much?
    Have you lost or suffered anything because of the behavior? Lost a job? Lost a relationship?
    Would you feel embarrassed if anyone knew you had this behavior or the frequency this behavior was present in your life?

    History of the word Codependency

    History of the word- The word originated in Alanon /AA groups. When a spouse to an Alcoholic began adapting his or her behavior around the Alcoholic's behavior, their behavior became dependent on their spouses use of alcohol. They did not have an alcohol addiction… they were "CO"dependent on the alcohol.

    Modern use of the word- When another person's actions are dictating my behaviors and emotions. "When you drink… I feel angry."

    How can Celebrate Recovery help me find sobriety? Celebrate Recovery is a Biblical and balanced program that helps us overcome our hurts, hang-ups, and habits. It is based on the actual words of Jesus taken from Matthew Chapter 5. Celebrate Recovery believes in providing a place for the broken to come and face the pain in their lives. The practical principles are designed to help others find an authentic relationship with Jesus Christ.

    Through Celebrate Recovery, we will come to believe there is only one solution. I will accept Jesus Christ as my Higher Power and follow His plan for my life. I will work through the 8 Recovery Principles found in the Beatitudes. With Jesus Christ as my Higher Power, I can and will change!

    Defining some of the "Labels": We have small groups that help meet the need of labels such as Alcoholic, Drug Addict, Substance abuser, Sex Addict, Co-Dependent, Gambler, Love/Relationship Addict, Enabler, Adult Child of an Alcoholic… 

    Examples of CR "Problem and Solution" Sheets (these will be on other pages) (At your local Celebrate Recovery we have more information on this and many more hurts, hang-ups or habits to assist you and your family).

    The Group Label is like a shoe size. It doesn't define you, it only helps you find a group that fits.

    As you draw closer to your Higher Power, Jesus Christ, you will learn how to apply the 8 Celebrate Recovery Principles and 12 Steps, designed to guide you in this journey we call "Recovery." If you are diligent to provide willingness, integrity, consistency, and rigorous honesty, God will supply you with the courage, strength, and ability to take the necessary steps to gain freedom from unhealthy behaviors. This journey happens in the context of groups and others on the recovery journey.

    Anger

    Are you looking for freedom from anger and toxic patterns of behavior?
    Do you become impatient easily when things do not go according as planned? 
    Do you have critical thoughts toward others who don't agree with your opinions? 
    Do you feel frustrated when you see someone else having an "easier" time than you?
    Are you irritated easily at those who refuse to admit their weaknesses? 
    Is it hard to forget when someone "does you wrong?" 

    Anger is one of our basic God-given emotions. This emotion can be constructive or destructive. When we lash out in anger, we are ignoring our fear, pain, or another deeper hurt, hang-up, or habit. Other times, we stuff it down and keep it silent, which can be just as damaging. All anger, if allowed to, will continue to destructively influence our behaviors and attitudes, and will eventually erupt from deep within the heart.

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness to control your anger. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to overcome destructive habits. Freedom is possible!

    Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Codependency

    Are you looking for approval from another person? 
    Do you feel controlled or manipulated by others? 
    Do you find yourself compromising your own values, choices and behaviors?
    Do you worry about how much someone drinks? 
    Do you live with the thought of not being good enough? 
    Are you in a relationship with individuals who are needy?
    Do you feel responsible for the feelings, actions and choices of those around you?
    Do you "give in" to boundaries you previously set?

    Codependency is when a person's need for approval or validation from another person allows them to be controlled or manipulated. They are willing to compromise their own values, choices, and behavior at the expense of their personal well-being. Answering yes to any of the questions above might be a trigger for you to ask yourself if you are codependent and relying on someone else for your happiness, satisfaction, value, or self-worth.

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness to control others. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to set boundaries and find the change you are seeking. Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Eating Disorders

    Are you concerned that a friend or family member has an eating disorder?
    Do you struggle with anorexia, bulimia or binge eating?
    Are you constantly dieting?
    Do you hide food or food wrappers?
    Are you eating in secret?
    Do you exercise excessively?
    Have you experienced extreme weight loss?
    Do you struggle with body image?
    Do you deny hunger, even when starving?
    Do you make excuses for not eating?

    Eating disorders involve extreme disturbances in eating behavior. An eating disorder can be characterized by an excessive or compulsive consumption of food and/or getting rid of food, commonly known at bingeing and purging. It may also be characterized by self-induced starvation and excessive and unhealthy weight loss. We may have believed the lie that our bodies define who we are, and that changing our body image to fit an imagined standard would bring fulfillment, peace and acceptance into our chaotic lives. We may have jeopardized our relationships, health, jobs, morals, and values to ensure we meet these imagined standards.

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness to control your eating disorder. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to gain freedom from anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating. Change is possible. There is hope! Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Food Addiction

    Are you looking for freedom from food addiction? 
    Do you or someone you love struggle with food? 
    Do you keep eating certain foods even if you're no longer hungry?
    Do you turn to food to ease pain or fears?
    Has food become your comforter, your friend?
    Have you tried various diet programs, exercising, or medications to try to control your eating habits? 
    Do you struggle with body image? 
    Have you failed repeatedly? 
    Are you left feeling guilty, incapable and unlovable?

    Addiction is a pattern or a trained response to an internal reaction to painful experiences and wounds. One creates that pattern to survive and to function as a natural response. Many times, food becomes a comfort to ease our pain or fear. Other times, we trade one addiction for another, and food becomes a new addiction to replace another one we have gained sobriety over. Food becomes our "drug of choice."

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness to control your addiction to food. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to gain sobriety over your food addiction.

    Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Love and Relationship Addiction

    Are you looking for love in all the wrong places?
    Are you fearful of being alone or rejected?
    Are you endlessly searching for that special someone?
    Do you mistake intense sexual experiences and new romantic excitement for love?Are you constantly craving and searching for a romantic relationship? Are you able to control romantic fantasies and new relationships?
    Do you find your behaviors causing loss of interest in previously enjoyable activates like socializing with friends?

    Sometimes, our coping mechanism becomes an unhealthy use of love and relationships as a means of achieving worth. We can perceive attraction, attachment, and sex as basic humans needs, as with food and water. These perceived needs can lead us to unhealthy behaviors, such as manipulating and controlling others or escalating our tolerance of high-risk behavior.

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness over love, romance, fantasies and relationships. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to gain sobriety over your Love and Relationship Addiction.

    Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Physical/Sexual/Emotional Abuse

    Are you looking for freedom and healing from the traumas in your past? 
    Are you looking for support to heal from the influence these past experiences continue to have on your present life? 

    Most survivors of physical abuse / sexual abuse / emotional abuse are hesitant to identify themselves as victims of abuse. They feel isolated, depressed, worthless or helpless to change. Ask yourself these questions. Do you feel angry, bitter and rebellious, or have trouble with authority figures? Do you struggle with "all or nothing thinking?" Do you want to have victory through Christ over the life experience of abuse?

    Recovery is a two-step process for victims of abuse. The first step is healing from the traumas done to us in our past, and the second step is healing from the influence these past experiences continue to have in our present lives.

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to healing. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness to heal the damaged emotions resulting from your abuse. We look to God for the power to make us whole. We understand the people who abused us are responsible for the acts committed against us. We will NOT accept the guilt and shame resulting from those abusive acts.

    Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Alcohol Addiction/Drug Addiction

    Are you looking for freedom from alcohol or drug addiction?
    Do you or someone in your family find it hard to quit drinking or using drugs entirely?
    Do you have little control of the amount you consume? Are you preoccupied with drinking? 
    Does drug use create erratic or violent behavior?
    Do you try and avoid family or close friends while you are drinking or using? 
    Does it feel impossible to stop? 

    Addiction is a pattern or a trained response to an internal reaction to painful experiences and wounds. One creates that pattern to survive and to function as a natural response. Relying on Christ amid pain requires trust and intentionality. This is NOT natural. It has to become a pattern also.

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness over drugs and alcohol. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to gain sobriety over your addiction.

    Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Sexual Addiction

    Are you looking for freedom from sexual addiction? 
    Do you go from one relationship to another? 
    Do you use sex as an escape? 
    After a sexual experience, do you feel guilty? 
    Do you find you cannot resist a sexual overture? 
    Have you ever tried to limit or stop acting out, but have been unable to stop? 
    Do you spend time on the Internet viewing pornographic websites? 
    Does porn interfere with work? 
    Does lust, pornography or sex with yourself or others dissolve tension? 

    Sexual addictions often start as an overpowering desire for pleasurable relief. We run from inner pain, loneliness, emptiness, or insecurity that we could not cope with in any other way. At first, it did provide the relief we sought, but the addiction soon takes on a life of its own. Would you like to be free from pornography, one night stands, adultery, and the pain and guilt that come from those choices?

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness to control sex addiction. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to gain sobriety over your sexual addiction.

    Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

    Gambling Addiction

    Do you have trouble controlling gambling habits?
    Do you gamble when you cannot afford to lose?
    Do your friends and family express concerns about your gambling?
    Do you gamble until your last dollar is gone?
    Has gambling ever made your home life unhappy?
    Do you find you cannot quit gambling entirely?
    Are you trapped in the illusion of "just one more time?" Or, "this time it will be different?"
    Would you be OK if you stopped gambling right now?
    Does this make you feel anxious?

    A compulsive gambler is a person who cannot quit gambling entirely, or has little control over the amount they bet. Gambling has caused growing and continuing problems in any area of their life. A compulsive gambler is careless about their welfare and/or the welfare of their family.

    Celebrate Recovery is here to help! Come join us and commit to working the 12 Steps, regularly attend meetings, and get accountability partners and a Sponsor to support your journey to freedom. Walking through the recovery process allows you to admit your powerlessness to control your gambling addiction. Leaning on and learning from others in the program will allow you to gain sobriety over your gambling addiction. Celebrate Recovery is a "large umbrella" 12 Step program to help a limitless number of issues. It is a biblical and balanced program effective in helping people overcome their hurts, hang-ups and habits. Many of the addiction issues we deal with include alcohol addiction, drug addiction, gambling addiction, sexual addiction and food addiction. We also deal with eating disorders, love and relationship addiction, co-dependency, and anger to name a few.

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NEW LOCATION!

East Cliff Elementary 
 
 
(right behind Wal-Mart & Academy)
 
1140 Broadway Blvd in Portland


10am SUNDAY WORSHIP 
(look for checkered flags) 
COME meet the FAMILY!

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OFFICE

200 Cypress Point
Portland, TX 78374
361-813-3043